सामाजिक समरसता

अगर आज का भारत गाँधी जी जहाँ कही होंगे अगर देख रहे होंगे तो यह सोच के रो रहे होंगे क्या मैंने इसी भारत की तस्वीर देखी थी। अगर यही होना था तो क्यों ना अखंड भारत का सपना देखा।

दादरी उत्तर प्रदेश, मालदा पश्चिम बंगाल, पूर्णिया बिहार, फतेहपुर उत्तर प्रदेश, हरदा मध्य प्रदेश में अगर होने वाली घटनाओं का विश्लेषण किया जाये तो पता चलता है हम कितने असहिष्णु हो गए है। कहा गयी वो सामाजिक समरसता जब हमें अपने बचपन में कभी यह पता नहीं चला की हम कहाँ है और किसके साथ है। कभी हमारी माओं ने ये चिंता नहीं की, शाम हो गयी है मेरा बेटा कहाँ है और खाया या नहीं। लेकिन आज माओं को इस चिंता के बजाये इस बात की चिंता होती है की क्या हुआ होगा वो सही सलामत तो होगा, क्यों क्योंकि आज हमे अपने पड़ोसियों तक पर भरोसा नहीं रहा। क्योंकि हमारी वो जो आपस की एक अनजान डोरी हुआ करती थी जो हमे आपस में एक दूसरे से बांधे रखती थी वो कही टूटती सी नजर आती है। लेकिन मैं कहूँगा नहीं, ये हमारी सामाजिक समरसता आज भी है जो एक हिन्दू बेटी की शादी में एक मुस्लिम परिवार का कोई युवा अपना योगदान देता नजर आता है और कोई मुस्लिम परिवार की बेटी की शादी में हिन्दू युवा अपना योगदान देता नजर आता है। तो आखिर ऐसा क्यों है की वह अनजान धागा टूटता नजर आता है। ये सिर्फ और सिर्फ हमारे राजनितिक आकाओं की उपज है। क्यों, क्योंकि वे ये नहीं चाहते है की हम एक रहे क्योंकि इससे उनकी दूकान बंद होने का खतरा है।


अब आप सोचेंगे ऐसा मैं कैसे कह सकता हूँ। आप सोचे अगर किसी भी असेम्बली में सारे समुदाय एक मत से इस बात पर तैयार होते है की कोई उम्मीदवार हमारे लायक नहीं है और हम पूरी तरह चुनाव का बहिस्कार करेंगे तो क्या आज की तारीख में वहाँ पर सारे उम्मीदवारों को हटाकर दुबारा से चुनाव नहीं कराया जायेगा। तो सिर्फ इस एक उदाहरण के तौर आप सोच सकते है की ये राजनेता ही है जो ऐसा काम करते है।

जरुरी है राजनेता संभल जाये ऐसे कर्तव्यों से और ऐसे वक्तव्यों को देने से बचे वरना उनकी साख तो जायेगी ही साथ में उनकी अपनी पार्टी की भी साख जाती नजर आएँगी। यहाँ पर कुछ राजनेता जो कुछ ना कुछ हमेशा बोलते रहते है और जब भी बोलते है उससे आपस के समुदायो में तनाव बढ़ता है। लेकिन जब तक इन राजनेताओ को हम अपना मसीहा समझते रहेंगे तब तक ये हमारा इसी तरह फायदा उठाते रहेंगे। ये नेता कभी हिन्दू-मुस्लिम कह के डराते है कभी मुस्लिम-हिन्दू कह के डराते है, कभी ईसाइ-हिन्दू कह के डराते है कभी हिंदु-ईसाई कह के डराते है। जरा सोचिये इनके हाथ में पुरे राज्य की कानून व्यवस्था की जिम्मेदारी होती और ऐसे कैसे एक जगह कुछ लाख या कुछ हज़ार लोग अचानक जमा हो जाते है और ऐसा कुछ कर जाते है जो मानवता के नाम पर कलंक है। क्या कानून व्यवस्था की जिम्मेदारी राज्य सरकार की नहीं है? कभी आपने सोचा है की किसी राजनेता के किसी रैली में ऐसी घटनाये क्यों नहीं होती है। कभी कोई राजनेता किसी बम्ब ब्लास्ट में नहीं मरता। क्योंकि जहाँ ये राजनेता होते है वहां की सुरक्षा चाक चौबंद होती है। जरा सोचिए हम राजनेता से है या राजनेता हमसे है। तो आखिर मरता कौन है आम आदमी कोई राजनेता क्यों नहीं। हमारे चुने हुए नेता को हमसे क्या खतरा जो हमसे ही नहीं मिलते चुनाव के बाद। चुनाव के पहले तक तो इनको जहाँ चाहो बिठा लो कोई फर्क नहीं परता, चुनाव जितने के बाद ही ये भीआईपी हो जाते है। मैं यहाँ छोटा सा उदाहरण देना चाहूँगा की मेरे क्षेत्र का सांसद कभी मेरे गाँव नहीं आता चुनाव जितने के बाद लेकिन चुनाव से पहले कई दफा मैंने उन्हें अपने गाँव में देखा है खड़े खड़े बात करते हुए किसी भी अनजान व्यक्ति से, मोटरसाइकिल पर भ्रमण करते हुए कई बार गुफ्तगू करने का भी मौका लगा लेकिन अगर मैं दिल्ली में उनसे मिलना चाहू तो शायद यह संभव नहीं क्योंकि दिल्ली आते ही वे एक भीआईपी हो जाते है। शायद संसद में वे सोनिया गांधी जी के बगल में हमेशा बैठे नजर आते है शायद नहीं भी। और आज तक कभी एक सवाल करते नहीं देखा और ना ही सुना। मैं यह नहीं कहता की आप सोनिया गांधी जी के बगल में ना बैठे लेकिन कम से कम अपने राजनितिक धर्म का तो पालन करे संसद में। अगर किन्ही राजनेताओं को सही मे खतरा है तो आप उन्हें सुरक्षा दीजिये लेकिन बांकी जनता के साथ तो ऐसा ना करे उनसे राजनेता मिले बात करे तभी उन्हें पता चल पायेगा की क्षेत्र में क्या कमी है जिसे दूर करने का प्रयास किया जाये। बात करने से बात बनती है।

तो जरुरत है हमे जागने की हम क्या है और हमे क्या चाहिए। जरुरत है हमे यह समझने की कौन सही है कौन गलत। कभी य राजनेताे बोलेंगे जोर जोर से जैसे इनका कोई सगा मर गया हो कभी यह चुपचाप परे रहते है एक शब्द मुँह से नहीं निकालते, क्यों क्योंकि वोट की राजनीती जो ठहरी। तो मतलब है इन्हें और इनकी मानसिकता को समझने की तभी हम इनके खिलाफ खड़े हो पाएंगे।  कुछ लोग दादरी पर चिल्ला चिल्ला के बहुत कुछ बोल गए लेकिन मालदा और पूर्णिया जैसी घटनाओं के बारे में कुछ नहीं बोला। जिन लोगों ने मालदा और पूर्णिया की घटनाओं पे गला फाड़ के चिल्लाये वे कभी दादरी और हरदा जैसी घटनाओ पर चुप्पी साध ली। क्या हम इतने बेवकूफ है हमे समझ नहीं आता की कौन क्या कह रहा है कैसे कह रहा है। या हम सुनना नहीं चाहते है। मुझे नहीं लगता है की हम ऐसे हो गए है की हम यही सुनना चाहते हो। या कुछ और है जिसकी वजह से हम चुप रहते है।

तो मैं यही कहना चाहता हूँ की आप अफवाहों पर ध्यान ना दे जबतक आपको विश्वस्त सूत्रो से पता ना चले। आप राजनेताओ की बात माने लेकिन उससे पहले अपने विवेक का उपयोग अवश्य करे। मैं अपने पढ़े लिखे युवा मित्रो से कहूँगा की आप भी किसी भी बात को फैलाने से पहले उसके बारे में कुछ जांच पड़ताल अवश्य करे। आज का जमाना इतना मॉडर्न है की आप एक क्लिक से किसी भी न्यूज़ के बारे में तुरंत पता लगा सकते है। तो कही भी शेयर करने से पहले उस न्यूज़ के इम्पैक्ट के बारे में अवश्य सोचे, क्योंकि आपके एक शेयर करने से जाने अनजाने में आप कई लाख नहीं तो कई हजार लोगो तक अपनी बात पहुँचाने में सक्षम है। आप पढ़े लिखे है आपसे उम्मीद की जाती है की आप अपने समाज को दिशा दिखाए और सही दिशा दिखाए, ताकि उनके जीवन में सुधार हो सके। आप इस बात से कतई इनकार नहीं कर सकते की आप अकेले के करने से क्या होता है आप करे तो सही। और आपकी समाज के प्रति कुछ जिम्मेदारी बनती है उसका अवश्य निर्वाह करे। चाहे जैसे करे अवश्य करे हर एक बात को सरकार के सिर पे छोड़ देना सही नहीं है। आप अपने आँख और कान हमेशा खुले रखे की आस पास क्या हो रहा है अगर गलत हो रहा है तो पूछे जरूर, पूछने में क्या जाता है।
जय हिन्द जय भारत।

India is an 'absolutely critical country' for U.S.

U.S. President Barack Obama has despatched a personal letter to New Delhi making it clear that India is "an absolutely critical country" with which Washington is keen to work, a top official has said.

U.S. Undersecretary of State William Burns, who is in New Delhi to make the first high level contact with the Manmohan Singh government since its return to power, would be delivering the "presidential letter", the envoy, Richard Holbrooke, told reporters Wednesday without providing details on the contents.

"It's a private letter," said Holbrooke. "But the important thing is that the number three person in the Department of State has gone to India to reaffirm immediately after the election,"said the U.S. special envoy for Afghanistan and Pakistan.

"Burns is now beginning the dialogue with the newly elected government in an atmosphere of great positive feelings," he said. "And without getting into Indian politics, all I can say is that all of us - Secretary (of State) Hillary Clinton, Bill Burns, myself, President Obama - everyone looks forward to working with the newly elected Indian Government."

"He is carrying the messages that I would have carried if I had had time to go to New Delhi on this trip, but I couldn't do it," said the envoy, who visited Pakistan last week to assess relief efforts to help the estimated two million people who have fled a Pakistani offensive against the Taliban.

"All I can tell you is that this Administration believes that what happens in Afghanistan and Pakistan is of vital interest to our national security. And ...that India is a country that we must keep in the closest consultations with."

"And we consider India an absolutely critical country in the region," Holbrooke said. "They're not part of the problem, but they are vitally affected, and we want to work closely with them," he added explaining what some observers have described as a hole in Obama administration's foreign policy focused on Pakistan and Afghanistan.

"The Indians were very frank with us. They wanted to keep in touch with us during the election period, but they had to wait through the election, just like we do. It's the world's two greatest democracies."

Holbrooke, who visited New Delhi on his first two trips to the region, said next week he would be meeting the new Indian ambassador to the U.S., Meera Shankar, whom he already met twice.

Sources : Silicon India

For loving father

Some word for loving father

If you honour your father and mother, "you will live a long life, full of blessing.” And now a word to you fathers. Fathers are the biggest source of strength for a child for me as well even today.The innocent eyes of a child perceive father as the all-powerful, most knowledge, truly affectionate and the most important person in the family. For daughters, fathers are the first men they adore and fall in love with.While for sons their fathers are the strongest person they know and someone they aspire to emulate.Even for the grownups fathers are someone whom they look up to for the most experienced and honest advice that is always in the best of their son.For this great figure in our life that we know as father.

Say Thanks to Dad
Children blessed with a loving father should consider themselves fortunate. For, they have someone to take care of their needs and interests. Someone to stop them when they are diverting to a wrong path and guide them on a road to success and virtue. For many of us fathers have always been there to solve our innumerous mathematics and science problems and explain the same formula hundredth time or better still until it is understood by us. Fathers would never ever give a smallest of hint to let us know how hard they work to take care of our needs and fulfill our demands... For all their adorable scolding and affectionate punishments we all owe a big thanks to our Dads.

Apologize to Dad
Father's Day also brings with it the wonderful opportunity to apologize for all our rude and insensitive behavior. We as children often take the love and affection of our parents for granted and treat them with outright contempt. We need to apologize. We must feel great to have the presence of loving father in our lives and do not disrespect the blessing of God on us. On Father's Day we must says “Sorry” to our Dad and seek their forgiveness for our wrong behavior."Spcially I want to say my dad for my rude behavior at childhood time."

Celebrate the big Day with Dad
We must make all efforts to celebrate Father's Day with our Dad. Children staying away from father must especially strive to spend the day with father and show gratitude for all their support and love.We must pamper father by spending the day in a manner he likes most. We can also express love with thoughtful gifts accompanied by a bouquet of his favorite flowers. The idea is to show our affection and tell Daddy how much he is loved and appreciated not just on Father's Day but every single day of our lives.

Confusion about Before Marrieage & After Marriage...

Before Marriage - - -

Boy: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.

Girl: Do you want me to leave?

Boy: NO! Don't even think about it.

Girl: Do you love me?

Boy: Of course! Over and over!

Girl: Have you ever cheated on me?

Boy: NO! Why are you even asking?

Girl: Will you kiss me?

Boy: Every chance I get!

Girl: Will you hit me?

Boy: Are you crazy! I'm not that kind of person!

Girl: Can I trust you?

Boy: Yes.

Girl: Darling!

After marriage - - -

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Are you a father?

You are a father. It looks like such a simple sentence. But your new role is actually profound; one you are a father, you can never be “not-a-father” anymore. By becoming a father, you’ve embarked on an amazing and fulfilling journey, powerful from the moment of birth.
The day you bring your newborn or your adopted back home with you is exciting and overwhelming. It’s a cliché, but your life will never be the same. Even if this is not your first child, he is different from your others and you are different than you were before. Heck, my identical twins were born 14 minutes apart; they are markedly different from one other, as is my relationship with each of them. Each father-child bond is unique and continually evolving.

The child is not the only one being influenced here. As James Joyce once said, “People talk of my influence on my daughter, but what about her influence on me?”

No one has ever been so completely dependent on you as this baby. It feels wonderful to be so needed, but also a bit scary. Fortunately, you have more resources at your disposal than you may think (for example, Dsds & Daughters).

That said, I think every prospective parent should watch the movie Parenthood before getting pregnant. The film could easily be called Fatherhood, since the main character is a dad. That movie makes clear some central truths about fathering:

- It is like a roller coaster.
- You can’t know for sure how your actions will affect your children.
- You can guarantee that your actions do affect your children.

My favorite line from Parenthood is when Keanu Reeves’ character Tod says, “You need a license to buy a dog or drive a car. Hell, you even need a license to catch a fish. But they’ll let any [expletive deleted] a**hole be a father.”

With a bit of earthy humor (the kind guys like, right?), Tod explains the biggest dilemma a new father faces: No one trained me for this job. The child doesn’t come with an operator’s manual, plug-and-play attachments, or downloadable upgrades.

Despite this, dads today have more freedom than ever to take “nontraditional” approaches to fathering. Many men take time away from their careers to stay home with the baby while their partners return to the workplace. Other men work part-time or telecommute so they can commune with baby every possible moment. Some men even teach Head Start and early childhood parent education classes!

In other words, you don’t have to father the same way your father or grandfather did. You can be your own kind of Dad. That opportunity is liberating and exciting, but can also be disconcerting. After all, it’s harder to find examples to follow when you’re doing things in a new way.

But did you know that nature provides tools that you may not yet be conscious of? For example, from the moment of birth, you and your baby can instinctively communicate with each other, even though it’ll be a year or more before she uses words.

A pioneering pediatric psychologist, the late Dr. Lee Salk (brother of Jonas, creator of the polio vaccine) urged parents to trust this kind of natural connection. As a new dad, I took comfort and confidence from Salk’s What Every Child Would Like His Parents to Know (Warner, 1973-now out-of-print).

In a refreshing departure for a parenting author, Salk argued that we shouldn’t worry so much about what the latest parenting book says. His book wisely encouraged me to trust my heart along with my baby’s sounds and body. If I “tuned in” to my deep fathering instincts, and the signals my infants “broadcast,” I’d have most of what I’d need to be a good father. As fathering expert Will Glennon says, “The key is to father from the heart.”

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Listen your Inner Guide

Each of us has had this experience: we knew something was going to turn out a certain way, but we didn’t listen to that gut instinct and it cost us. Maybe we missed out on an opportunity, or we had to dig ourselves out of some kind of mess. But we’ve all done it.
The other day I caught myself ignoring my inner guidance. I didn’t quite catch it as early as I’d have liked, however. I spent an entire weekend working on a series of articles for a website. Somewhere inside I just knew it wasn’t the right kind of content. But I didn’t want to admit to myself that I was wasting my own time, so I kept trying to tweak the wording to force what I was writing into a better fit. I probably got a third of the way through what I was trying to accomplish when I couldn’t take it any more. I stopped myself (not easy!) and sent in what I had already written to the editor to check that I was going in the right direction. When I got his reply I “hid” from it for a little while, not wanting to even open it, because I already knew what it was going to say.

It was a frustrating little tug-o-war with my ego, but it was progress. At least I stopped, right? And it helped me to get more clarity on where I should have been going in the first place. After the fact, I do feel good about the experience. But, boy! It was excruciating witnessing myself struggle through it.

So who else is making progress out there? Are you someone who enjoys the learning process of self-help concepts and techniques, but who then looses steam when it comes to practicing what you’ve learned? It’s always fun to get a new book or DVD, or to attend a seminar and spend time thinking and talking about all of this stuff. But putting it into practice is a whole different ball game.

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What is beauty?

What is beauty, and how do we find it?
We live in a culture where feeling beautiful has a profound impact on one’s self-esteem and self-confidence, particularly for women. This culture would have us believe that there is a particular “look” that is beautiful, namely thin, young, and blemish-free.

The Dove advertising campaign has helped to shed light on the many ways that the advertising industry promotes this unrealistic view of beauty. There is a constant message that if you are not perfect, you are not quite good enough; you are not really beautiful.

Statistics reflect the impact of these messages: 80-90% of adult women dislike their bodies. 15% of women say they would sacrifice more than five years of their lives to be thinner, while 24% say they would sacrifice up to three years of their life. 81% of 10-year-olds are afraid of being fat, 78% of 18-year-old girls are unhappy with their bodies, and the number one wish of girls 11-17 years old is to lose weight. 51% of 9 and 10 year-old girls feel better about themselves when dieting, and 9% of 9-year-olds have vomited to lose weight.

The natural process of life seems to be a problem. Anti-wrinkle creams and botox treatments abound. There are millions of diet products, shakes, and nutrition plans designed to help you shed unwanted pounds. It is as if we constantly need to fight against our bodies and their natural processes in order to achieve the desired beauty, the desired “perfection.” This constant focus on what we are not or what we should be eclipses the beauty of who we are.

When we struggle in this way against our bodies and ourselves we are setting ourselves up for pain and misery. When we focus on what we should be or how we should look, we live with a constant state of fear and dissatisfaction.

What if beauty was more expansive then we think? What if everyone was beautiful simply because they exist?

We can learn to see beauty in everyone and everything, regardless of how closely they fit culturally-dictated standards of desirability. When we learn to see beauty in ourselves and the world around us, we discover that we are more than enough. We no longer have to live with a sense of inadequacy or shame; we no longer have to live wishing that our nose was smaller, our stomach flatter, or our hair fuller. We can begin to live from a place of peace, knowing we are beautiful simply because we exist.

Sometimes, however, finding the beauty in ourselves can seem like a herculean task. We are constantly being exposed to messages that we should be taller, shorter, thinner, fitter, wealthier, etc. It is a constant practice of returning to ourselves and affirming with compassion “I am beautiful; I am radiant; I am divine.”

We can soar on the wings of eagles, but we must learn to love ourselves first.

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The choice for a life Partner

Marriage is a social custom which is given importance in most of the human societies all over the world & hence mate selection is a crucial part in marriage . Psychologists & Sociologists have developed several theories which deal with mate selection .These theories mainly suggest the factors that govern consciously or unconsciously an individuals choice for a mate. There are various theories however I am mentioning the common & popular theories of mate selection.

1 ) HOMO GAMY THEORY : According to this theory individuals choose life partner who also has the same religion , race , social status & economical status as he or she has.According to Psychologists the more the couple is homogeneous the better is their married life.

2 ) PROPINQUITY THEORY : According to this theory individuals often choose to marry a person with whom they are working in office for a long time or studying in same college or staying in same area or locality.The theory is based on the fact the individuals who work together or in same area or company or study in same class or college or stay in same area meet daily or occasionally & therefore develop some kind of attraction which influences their decision of mate selection.

3) COMPLEMENTARY NEED THEORY : The theory has been propounded by Winch .According to this theory the individual seeks out a mate to complement his or her own personality. Winch suggests that in mate selection the need pattern of each spouse will be complementary rather than similar to the need pattern of the other spouse .In other words the person choose a mate who will fill out the weaknesses in his or her personality.

4) PARENTAL IMAGE THEORY : Psychologist Sigmund Freud proposed this theory. According to this theory a child develops a deep attachment for the parent of opposite sex. Therefore in a partner the youth tends to seek the quality of his opposite sex parent .Thus a girl wishes to marry a man who has similar traits of her father & man wants to marry a woman who has similar traits of his mother. These theories govern our choice of mate consciously or unconsciously.

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GARDEN OF FRIENDSHIP!

G is for genuine

A is for always here

R is for respect

D is for durable

E is for everlasting

N is for nurturing

O is for outstanding

F is for friendship

F is for fantastic

R is for reliable

I is for independence

E is for equal, in all

N is for necessary

D is for does not supply the soul

S is for support

H is for happiness

I is for ideas

P is for privilege of knowing one another

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DIFFERENCE BETWEEN "SOMEBODY YOU LOVE " & SOMEBODY YOU LIKE"

In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster.

But in front of the person you like, you get happy.

In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring.

But in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter.

if you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush.

But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.

In front of the person you love, you can't say everything on your mind.

But in front of the person you like, you can.

In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy.

But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self.

you can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love.

But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.

When the one you love is crying, you cry with them.

But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.

The feeling of love starts from the eye.

But the feeling of liking starts from the heart.

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RELATIONSHIPS

Few annotations to obtain bliss in "Marriage"!! Hey, don't get surprised. Check this out!!!

This might sound very bizarre to a few people but yes...it is genuinely true that you can obtain bliss in Marriage!

We see a lot of ups and downs in our Married Life. Sometimes, we even think that is this the same person to whom we got married. Whether it is Arranged or Love Marriage, we tend to find some intricacies to get along with the person we marry.When you are dating, you see the person from a different point of view and assume that this would continue even after you marry the person. And, hence do not expect any kind of change in the person's behaviour at all.

Ironically, we notice a lot of change with the same person after the marriage. Then it becomes very difficult to cope up with the situation at home. You feel infuriated and bewildered. You tend to take up impulsive decisions for which you will be repentant at a later stage. You would certainly be very late in action at that point of time.

With this article, I am just making an effort to give you some inputs to adapt in your marriage to avoid hurting your loved ones!

I suggest, before I start emphasizing further on Marriage, we necessarily need to understand the meaning of Love. In short, Love is not any kind of fascination but an acquaintance which needs adherence. We do not love someone just for the sake of self-security. We predominantly do mean that we love that person very much and he/she is an important aspect of our life and we mean the world to the same person. I am sure, you all would agree with me. With this strong note in mind, I do not think there should be any hitch in understanding the person you love!

Simply put together, I am highlighting the important aspects of Married Life point-wise so that it does not take much of your time to comprehend:

1. LOVE: Love is the basic ingredient to the world of Marriage. Love your spouse a lot. Make him/her feel loved very often. By and large, we think that we need not express the words 'I LOVE YOU' to the person we love. But, it is extremely imperative to tell the person how much you love. It should not be said in the literal aspect of it. Mean the word LOVE to your best and look at the person's eyes when you say. These three words 'I LOVE YOU' really makes the person feel very special and you can definitely expect a blush on!

2. UNDERSTANDING: Understanding is the foremost aspect with respect to Marriage. You must and should understand your spouse in depth. The basic intensity in the Marriage lies in Understanding. Try and understand your spouse's Nature and Needs. Understand even the very craziest things which your spouse likes or dislikes.

3. TRUST: Have faith in your spouse. Never let the skepticism enter your mind. Trust him/her whole heartedly and I challenge, your spouse cannot go wrong. Make your belief on him/her so strong that he/she is infallible i.e. he/she cannot even think of committing any flaws.

4. RESPECT: Respect your spouse as a person he/she is and duly respect their feelings. Make him/her feel that your relationship with them is enormously cherished. Remember! Unless and until you respect your spouse, you cannot expect her/him to respect you and your feelings! Have a high regard to your spouse's family too.

5. EGO: In one sentence, "Edging God Out"! Do not attempt to do this! I do understand that this is the basic reason why an argument ends in a tiff. Yes, I certainly agree that we all need to satisfy our self-esteems but at the same time, we forget that we are hurting our loved ones just for the sake of our egos. But, now a days, this is the basic reason why many Marriages come to an end. Please note, whenever there is an argument going on; please keep your Egos away! Make sure that this should not hamper your Marriage.

6. TIME: Spend oodles of time with your partner. At any point of time, never let them feel short of your time in their life. You will be able to enjoy even the little things in life only if you spend much time rather quality time with your spouse. As you know, time heals everything - even if you are feeling hostile at times - spending time with your partner can certainly boost up your energy. Go ahead and make much out of such good times. Do not forget to make every little moments most memorable!

7. FINANCE: In monetary issues, if one is dependent on the other or both of the partners are dependent on each other please ensure that he/she do not feel hesitant to spend your money. Make them comfortable and keep them at ease in financial matters. Never indicate that only you have the supremacy in monetary issues with respect to what you have earned.

8. CARE: Caring for your loved ones shows the warmth and concern you have in your relationship. Never neglect your spouse. The greatest pain is not to die, but to be ignored and not cared for. Try and understand even the tiny things about what your spouse needs. This helps in avoiding unnecessary arguments. Carelessness can cause a great mishap in your relationship. Not being cared can lead to loneliness which in turn causes depression in their life. I think everyone on this earth needs care and pamper.

9. SHARE: Sharing your feelings, thoughts, dreams, office talks and even many more things can enrich the equilibrium between the two of you. I would suggest, share even the very minute things with your partner. Never build up distance with your partner by not sharing anything or something. Share each and everything that's happening in and around your life. This will definitely enhance the grandeur of your relationship.

10. SUPPORT: Supporting your spouse in whatever he/she do will certainly build up confidence in them towards you. Try and support in each and everything in an optimistic manner. Do not criticize their decisions. Always encourage them in whatever they do and make them feel that they do have a person to rely on even at their bad times. Helping your spouse in their household works can do wonders! Amazingly, it really works!

11. DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE YOUR PARTNER: By and large, trying to change our spouse is the most common mistake committed by all of us. Most importantly, we should never try to change them. Accepting him/her as the person they are will definitely eradicate the tantrums in your married life. Remember - you have loved the person as they were in the beginning and trying to change that person might end up in losing your beloved! Rather, the best way is to get adapted to each other's characteristics!

I assume I have put down all my points to make anyone's Marriage, a blissful one. By now, I am sure that if anyone who considers the above aspects of Married Life will definitely accomplish Marital Bliss!

Happy Married Life to all of you again! Enjoy your Married Life to the utmost!

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